How to Quit an Addiction Advice on Stopping

How to Quit an Addiction Advice on Stopping Addiction Coping and Recovery Methods and Support Print How Quitting an Addiction Can Be Challenging By Elizabeth Hartney, BSc., MSc., MA, PhD Elizabeth Hartney, BSc, MSc, MA, PhD is a psychologist, professor, and Director of the Centre for Health Leadership and Research at Royal Roads University, Canada. Learn about our editorial policy Elizabeth Hartney, BSc., MSc., MA, PhD Medically reviewed by Medically reviewed by Steven Gans, MD on October 27, 2019 Steven Gans, MD is board-certified in psychiatry and is an active supervisor, teacher, and mentor at Massachusetts General Hospital. Learn about our Medical Review Board Steven Gans, MD Updated on November 25, 2019 Verywell / Brianna Gilmartin More in Addiction Coping and Recovery Methods and Support Overcoming Addiction Personal Stories Alcohol Use Addictive Behaviors Drug Use Nicotine Use Youve recognized you have a problemâ€"that your addictive behavior is affecting other parts of your lifeâ€"and you want to know how to quit an addiction. The chances are that you didnt expect to become addicted when you started. You may have thought you were just having fun and could quit at any time. Many people who develop addictions are surprised at how difficult they find their first attempt at quitting, and end up wondering, Why cant I quit? The good news is that you can quit, although it is a complicated process.  There are many factors, physical, mental, and emotional, that make quitting difficult.?? This is why so many people find treatment helps to guide them through the complex process of quitting â€" although many people are successful quitting on their own. Understanding why quitting is so difficult can help you see that everyone overcoming an addiction goes through the same process to some extent. It is not that you are especially weak-willed or that you are failing any more than anyone else. When you find yourself thinking, feeling, or acting in a particular way that goes against your decision to quit, you can be more compassionate with yourself, and keep trying. Tolerance Tolerance and withdrawal are key factors that contribute to addiction. They are strongly interconnected and are the main processes that got you addicted in the first place.?? If people didnt develop tolerance and withdrawal, they would probably find it a lot easier to quit. Tolerance is a physical and psychological process. When you experience an addictive substance or behavior the first time, it may be overwhelming, unpleasant even, or it may be mild and pleasurable. If the effect feels strong, you may feel there is no danger of you wanting to overdo it. If it is mild, it may seem harmless and innocent. The more times the behavior is repeated, the less sensitivity you have to it, and the more you need to get the same effect. Drugs, such as alcohol and opiates, work on specific parts of the brain, creating physical tolerance. Behaviors, such as sex and gambling, produce feelings of excitement that get less intense over time.?? As tolerance develops, you may want to do more of the drug or behavior to get the same effect. Withdrawal As you become addicted, you may experience withdrawal when you arent able to do the addictive behavior. Physical withdrawal symptoms may occur, such as shaking, feeling unwell, stomach upsets, and/or psychological withdrawal symptoms, such as feeling anxious and depressed. These are easily fixed by more of the addictive substance or behavior. Physical withdrawal from alcohol and drugs although variable and often resolves over a period of several days. However, it tends to be quite unpleasant and it can be dangerous. If you decide to quit, it is best done under medical supervision.?? Discuss physical withdrawal with your doctor for the best way to approach this. Once you have been through withdrawal, there are deeper psychological processes that make it difficult to stay on the wagon. Blocks to Quitting: Conflict and Ambivalence When your addictive behavior becomes excessive to the point of creating conflict, it is out of balance with other parts of your life. Conflict may occur within yourself â€" you want to rein in your behavior while, at the same time, have greater urges to do it. Conflicts also occur with other people: whether they want you to quit or want you to join them in the addictive behavior. Despite making a commitment to quit, and going through the withdrawal phase, conflicts do not simply go away. Expectations are higher than ever before. The one thing you depended on to cope with stressâ€"the addictive behaviorâ€"is now off-limits. This is why it is so important to have other ways of coping firmly established, ideally before quitting. A therapist will help you with this. Without coping strategies in place, you are likely to experience strong urges to go back to the addictive behavior one more time. Relationship support can help you deal with and avoid conflicts without using your addictive behavior for comfort and escape. Ambivalence, the mixed feelings of both wanting to continue with the addictive behavior and wanting to quit, is part of the addictive process even in the early stages of experimentation.?? Often, this is felt in terms of right and wrong, a moral dilemma, especially in relation to sexual and illegal behaviors. In some cases, guilt feelings are appropriate; in others, they are not. Guilt and Justification The discomfort of these feelings of guilt when your behavior doesnt fit with your own standards of right and wrong can be a strong motivator to make changes. Sometimes it can work against you, causing you to justify your behavior to yourself and other people. This can get in the way of the decision to quit.?? Some common justifications are: Denial:  Its not a problem.Minimization:  I have already cut down.Comparisons:  Pollution is more dangerous. Uncle Ted drinks far more than I do.Defiance:  I would rather live a shorter life and be happy than quit and be miserable.Rationalization:  Ive never stolen to finance my habit, I am way more sociable when Ive had a drink.Lesser of Two Evils:  Better I do it than I be impossible to live with.Misinformation:  Cancer doesnt run in my family. It has medicinal uses, so its OK. Chocolate is the only cure for PMS.Taking Behavior out of Context:  In some cultures, polygamy is acceptable.Glorification:  Queen Victoria used to… Patriarchs in the Old Testament had many wives. Jesus drank wine. How Can You Quit? Therapy can help you to cope with uncomfortable feelings and help you unravel the irrational thoughts that keep you addicted. Quitting is not easy or straightforward, but a good treatment program will help you achieve it when you are ready.?? If you are ready to quit, talk to your doctor or call the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) hotline at 1-800-662-4357 or use their online treatment locator to find services in your area. The Best Online Therapy Programs